Father and Son

Fun Activities for a Father and His Young Son To Do

August 10, 2021 By Emily Joswiak Leave a Comment

If you surveyed 100 fathers and asked them what age their son was when they really started to connect, many of them would likely say when he was around his teenage years. Some dads seem to have trouble connecting with their sons at a younger age.

Regardless of the reason for this issue, we feel some of it comes from not knowing what to do with them until they’re old enough to do “manlier” things. Ahead, we’ve created a list of fun activities for a father and his younger son to do together. Don’t miss out on any good times early in your son’s life.

Take Him To a Ball Game

Many people would go with the cliché “play catch with him,” but we think actually taking your son to a sporting event is a better use of your time. No matter how young he is, he’ll enjoy the food, the excitement of the crowd, and whatever silly things the mascot is doing. Sure, he might not remember it when he’s older, but this could be the event that sparks an interest in the sport down the road, which could lead to many games of catch in the front yard.

Build or Fix Something Together

Some dads think that this idea is only suitable for older children, but building or fixing something together is an excellent way to bond. Give your son some easy tasks, like grabbing a tool or twisting in a screw.

If you’re working on something for your son, he’ll be more likely to want to help. For example, some people like to modify their child’s ride-on.

Go on a Camping Trip

If you want your son to experience the outdoors, take him on a father-son camping trip. On this trip, you can teach him how to fish, set up a tent, or even build a campfire. If he likes it, you could turn it into a yearly tradition, finding new things to teach him every year.

Play Some Games With Him

If none of our previous fun activities for a father and his younger son to do together seem to be working, you might have to do something on his terms. Many kids are into video games these days; try playing one or two of them with him. Even if you aren’t very good, your son will appreciate that you’re trying it out with him.

If you want to meet him halfway on this subject, try to find a board game that he likes. If you need more players, get the whole family involved and make it a family game night. Regardless of what you do, taking an interest in the things your son likes goes a long way.

5 Fun Father-Son Bonding Activities

October 27, 2015 By Oscar Waterworth Leave a Comment

There is a time and place for everything. However, the idea of bonding with your own son is something that is completely timeless. Regardless if he is just a child or a fully grown man, older than you when he was born, it matters not. It is never too late for some father-son bonding activity and this kind of effort is never underappreciated. Because of this, here are 5 most fun father-son bonding activities that you should definitely try out with your boy at least once.

1. Fishing

Really no surprise here. For over a century now, fishing is almost a synonymous for a father-son bonding activity. Furthermore, taking your son fishing is about more than just spending time with him. It is about spreading the knowledge, a skill directly related to man’s survival in wilderness. This skill was passed down from father to son for generations, millennia in the past. This is why fishing, deserves the first spot on this list. The drawbacks however are the fact that fishing as a hobby is not at all inexpensive. Quality fishing gear can cost an arm and a leg and buying an adequate rod is almost an art. Still for all those passionate about it, it is usually more than worth all the effort invested.

2. Building a model rocket

Children are curious beings, so it is important to point them in the right direction. It is for this reason that building a model rocket is one of the greatest father-son activities there is. First off, it is an incredibly fun thing to do. It takes time, it takes patience and it takes precision. Next important thing is that it nourishes your boy’s love for science, his curiosity and trying to understand how the world functions. In the end, it also establishes you as a figure of knowledge and authority in the eyes of your son. If you do this right, you will become a dad that knows everything.

3. Going to a basketball game

One of the universal desires of every father out there is to make his son interested in some form of sport, or to make him root for the same team he does. The first thing is important since playing basketball is a great thing for a young boy’s developing body. As for second thing, this is something highly subjective. There is nothing more beautiful than going to a game with your own son and witnessing your team’s victories or hard times with him by your side. This is why it is a great idea to start as early as possible. I remember when my father bought Lakers tickets for the two of us. It was an energetic experience that I will remember for the rest of my life.

4. Playing catch

Same as going to a game, this will also nourish your boy’s love towards sport, but also improve his hand-eye coordination. Additionally, speaking of some quality father-son time, it doesn’t get any more intimate than this. Having a “big talk” with a child is often seen as meddling. However, during a simple catch session with your boy, you will find out more about what’s been troubling him lately than you ever could through a “parental interrogation.”

5. A road trip

Going on a road trip is always a fun activity and it is one that your boy is bound to appreciate. In a modern, hectic world, taking few days off work just so you could spend them with your son already means a lot. Plan the most interesting, the most exciting road trip and share it with your son. You may rest assured that everything you experienced on the road will become a lifelong memory for your boy. A memory that he will always cherish.

Where there is a will there is always a way, and building a healthy relationship with your son is something that requires a lot of time and patience. Still, as hard as it may seem, there is no goal that is more worthy and no prize more valuable than being able to properly bond with your son.

A Dad Defined — By His Son

December 20, 2012 By Jason Miner 2 Comments

I have been thinking about my dad who passed away many years ago at the young age of sixty eight. Before his death I thought I had finally figured out a way to have a relationship with him. It was all on his terms of course but I did not mind because I wanted to know him, even if it was just a little bit before I lost him.

For some reason it is very hard for most dads to connect to their children. I believe it is partially due to the way they are wired and partially due to how they were fathered. A lot of the time they can deal with the husband and wife relationship because it is a more sexual relationship in nature. But the father/child relationship is a training/nurturing relationship and this is where the problem starts. The role of dad is a hard one to take on since there is no manual to follow. Men tend to like manuals, even if they do not actually read it all the way through. They tend to get the gist of what needs to be fixed or put together and then go by the seat of their pants so to speak.

First of all men learn how to be men from their dads which is where things can sometimes go wrong. If the dad who was teaching did not know how to effectively take the role of dad then how can the son get his training? Many times mom tries to take over the role of dad because dad is busy or just not interested. So where does that leave the boy? Unless his mom is one of those rare women that know what motivates a man and how to teach a man, “man” things, then he probably comes out being somewhat of a pushover. Because he has learned to be nurturing, loving, and responsible for his children but has not been given the tools for the strength he needs to be a loving disciplinarian.

I think one of the reasons being a tuned in dad is difficult for men is because God wired them to be able to shut down their emotions to some extent because He knew they would be defending their families. Either in war or in life there are times when it takes the ability to not think with your heart but make rational decisions when it comes to protecting and defending a family. Being that men have this ability I think many of them tend to use it to their advantage and instead of using it to protect their families they use it to protect themselves from their families. The day-to-day emotional highs and lows of their spouses and children seem to overwhelm them so they hide under the cover of “man” emotions. Even though these abilities are prized in war and in crisis, they will hardly work as the basis of a relationship with their families. The man that truly wants to be part of his children’s lives will have to strive to overcome their instincts to shut down all emotion.

Another thing that I have noticed in my observations in regards to men is that they tend to think that if they messed up their lives somehow in their early years that they know exactly what their children are doing and thinking. I know my dad did this on many occasions. He was upset with how he did in school because according to him he did not care about school and let his grades go. I believe his mom and dad would help him out quite a bit to get him through school. It seems he was a bit of a bad boy and got into a lot of trouble also. So he decided early on that none of his children would get any help from him with school-work and he was a hard with his punishments when it came to grades.

All children are not created equal and most of the time a child does not have the same thoughts as their parents unless the parents give them those thoughts. I was the type of child who was introverted and had trouble asking questions. I worked as hard as I could but I needed extra help. I was not lazy or disobedient like my dad, I just needed the help. Another thing my own father did was to accuse you of doing things wrong because he knew what you were thinking; after all, he had been there and done that. I know that sometimes it is good to be on top of things when it comes to watching out for your kids…so that they do not fall into some of the same traps as you have. But there is a fine line between observing to protect and accusing and punishing because you think you know what is going on in a child’s mind and life.

Children need to connect emotionally with both parents because, and if they do not they will have difficulties with their own relationships later down the line. If a dad truly wants to have a relationship with his children but has not been equipped by his own dad then it will be hard but not impossible. The first step is to seek the good of your children over the fear of opening up. It does not make you less of a man to sit down and talk to your children about what you are thinking and feelings you have about certain subjects. When you share part of your mind and heart with your children you are building a relationship.

Many times over the years I have had conversations with men who have expressed that they do not know what they are feeling, so how can they express it? It may take a little time and a lot of introspection for a man to figure out what he thinks and feels on certain subjects, but it is not impossible. If he truly wants to connect with his children it is something that needs to be done. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with your children will not make you weak in their eyes but it is strength in itself. Even if you do it poorly they will see your love and effort and it will endear them to you. If you want them to keep you posted on their feelings and thoughts then you must share yours. And the only way to truly be a part of their lives is to be part of their lives in the deeper aspects of the heart.

Children need their dads in a way that mom cannot provide. Girls need to know that they are protected and loved dearly by their fathers so that they will in turn seek out a husband who will treat them accordingly. Girls tend to gravitate towards men that treat them like their father did…because that is all they know. They are comfortable with being treated thus, even if it is not how they should be treated. If they were disrespected and ignored by their fathers, or degraded by their fathers, nine times out of ten they will be married to men just like their fathers.

Boys on the other hand need the strength and discipline in love that a dad can provide. It has to be done in love for the good of the boy. If it is strong handed discipline without love then you will be creating a monster for someone else to live with. Dads are the ones who need to balance out the love and discipline since mothers are primarily the nurturers. That does not mean that moms cannot discipline their children on a day to day basis. But if it is not backed up by dad, it will not have the same impact. There will be chaos in the home. If a dad is a firm and loving disciplinarian, meaning that he is disciplining for the sake of the child and not because he is angry, those children will grow up feeling safe, loved, and learn how to have self control.

The role of a dad is equally as important as the role of a mother. That is why they are a team of two. They balance out the family and meet the needs of the children in ways the other cannot. It is not too late for any dad to change. If you did not have a good example in your dad then it is time for you to break the mold and not pass it on to your sons and daughters. Do it for them and for yourself, so that you can build meaningful, loving relationships with your children before any more time passes you by.