I suppose that depends on your definition of success. Are we aiming for intrinsic satisfaction or outward achievement?
As Seth Godin might say, “Is the work an end to a means or are we concerned about the process — the art of creating something that makes a difference?”
Are we all about the “winning” or the steps that got us there?
It’s not to say that we should treat our career like a family or our family like a career, but they are not diametrically opposed.
The challenge is nurturing a passion for your work that doesn’t suck the life out of your family.
Unless you are independently wealthy, you have to make a living…and if you are like most, I would bet that your spouse does too.
So, if work is a necessity, and likewise parenting, then the logical progression would dictate that the two should live in harmony with one another.
It sounds so easy right? We all know it’s anything but.
So much of life is about the middle. In parenting and in work, the beginning and the end happen in an instant. The real story, the meat, takes place during the transition from start to finish.
Now you’ve got a decision to make.
– Will your career cannibalize your family?
– Will you decide that professional obscurity is the only way to remain a committed father?
– Or, will you choose to do work that you believe in, while being a dad that’s present and committed?
It might be a fine line, but it’s a line that we must choose to walk.